So let me ask a few questions. Does one go to a business
meeting in a bathrobe or swim suit? What would happen if you did? You would
turn a few heads, be snickered at, perhaps asked to go home and change, or
maybe even get fired?
Does one get married in their grubbies? Or go to the fancy
restaurant in the same clothes you use for scrubbing a toilet?
How many hours does the average lady spend in front of a
mirror everyday to look the way she thinks is her?
Does not every stage costumer purposely construct the look
of the character down to the smallest details to tell you what you need to know
about them before they even open their mouth?
Do we not dress for the parts we play everyday?
And if so, then it is only reasonable to assume that if we
dress like we are seeking male sexual attention that we would then get male
sexual attentions? (ie, if you dress like a slut, you are must likely going to
be treated like a slut.)
But wait- You don’t want this attention? Then just maybe you
should consider dressing for the kind of attention you wish to receive.
I just finished reading an article that complained about the
school asking the girls to refrain from wearing tight pants and belly showing
shirts to school because they “distracts the boys.” They writer of the article
claims that it teaches girls that they are to blame for how the boys treat
them, and this creates the “rape culture.”
Seriously, we are now blaming men for the fact that they are
hard wired to look at girls?
Yes, ideally, real men will look and never touch, and treat
you like a respected equal no matter what you are wearing. But let’s face it,
it is hard for the best of us to do that, (not to mention 12 year old boys) we
try, but we still judge others on how they present themselves, and quiet often
we treat them according to how they dress and behave.
So either you can agree with the writer and believe dress
codes blame girls for being raped. Or you can accept the fact humans are humans
and subject to biological follies, and use that to your advantage.
And one more word: if you drink to much and walk down dark
alleys alone at night, it is not the “rape culture” that will get you. It is
your own stupidity. Years ago there were a lot of concrete rules to prevent
women from behaving in those ways that were most likely to compromise them. Dark alleys and drunk girls are putting
themselves in compromised situations, no matter what the decade or century is.
Yes, the raper is guilty, 100%, but you most likely could have prevented it had
you first thought about the possible consequences.
